MAMA TIRED: A Blueprint

April 19, 2018
As I write this, I'm sitting in a coffee shop five minutes from my house. It's mid-afternoon and I'm exhausted. True, my seven month old Felix is teething so no one is sleeping, but for the past month or so I've had a nagging suspicion that something else might be going on...

It was right around this time that I connected with my friend Madeline of Madeline Nutrition to collaborate on her latest work of genius - the appropriately titled MAMA TIRED - a blueprint for digging up the root of your exhaustion and saying farewell to fatigue forever. (Madeline posted a bunch of informative/helpful/awesome posts on Instagram about the guide - follow her!)

As I designed this piece for her, the words started to sink in...hmmm, is this why coffee has stopped "working for me"? I've since made some changes to my daily routine and diet, with some encouraging results. (I still have a ways to go...) Her blueprint is packed with advice and ideas for how to banish unnecessary exhaustion and fatigue from your life, and seriously, it's been such an eye-opener for me.

The good news is that this blueprint is now available for everyone  - YAY! - so go check it out. And snag it at 50% off with the discount code MADELINE50 through 4/21!

Congrats Madeline! You're amazing.

Interested in working with me? Head over to Jess Roy Creative and send me a message! 

Oh Soul

April 11, 2018
Just a reminder, if you need one.

(P.S. Do you follow @thehandwritingclub on IG? 
I love Tracy's handwriting, and felt inspired to try it out myself.)

The Wishing Trees

February 15, 2018
There are two Wishing Trees in the beautiful Arlington Gardens in Pasadena, California. On their branches are handwritten wishes, some dating back almost 10 years, some written just that day. When we came upon it on our visit there over Christmas break, I was mesmerized, reading the heartfelt desires of people from all over the world.

A wish for Love. Peace. A cure. A friend. A solution.

Some were scrawled on binder paper, some on heavy cardstock, some on post-it notes. I was so moved, and it felt like I was taking part of an intimate, connecting ritual walking in that space.

Today I've read countless Instagram posts, tweets, Facebook posts, emails, texts - all with the same heartbreaking sentiment: we want things to be different, we feel helpless, we feel heartbroken.

I, like most everyone, feel at a loss when confronted with the reality of another mass murder event.

I don't have any smart or clever contributions to make to the debates about what needs to happen to end this - I just feel heartbroken and panicked when I think about sending my kids to school. Or really, just leaving the house sometimes. How will I ever explain to Penelope and Felix that this is a real thing?

I am sending love, light, and strength to all who are impacted by this horrific event and I'm going to do whatever I can to be part of the solution. I encourage you to do the same. <3

Brunch Book Club: The Gifts of Imperfection + Big Magic!

February 13, 2018

First off - yes, I realize it's basically mid-February. I apologize. Currently all four in our household are hunkered down with this flu that is determined to ruin people's lives...and to-do lists are getting neglected, big time.

I'm excited to hear about what you thought of The Gifts of Imperfection! We had a lovely group here in my home, and I really enjoyed hearing how each woman approached the book differently. Some had been squarely in the "no self-help books" camp, some had never heard of Brene Brown, some loved her research (me too!).

As we were all creative-types by profession, we talked about being creatively authentic, how we deal with the comparison trap, and how cultivating an attitude of abundance vs. scarcity can be a real game changer. We talked about Brene's definition of shame, how we had experienced negative self talk/shame talk ourselves, and what it meant to live whole heartedly as imperfect people. I had planned to walk through a list of questions, but when it came to it, our conversation seemed to flow on it's own...and was awesome!

We ended our time talking a bit about our book for this month - Elizabeth Gilbert's Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear! This has been on my to-read list since it came out, and I'm so excited to read it with you all!

A bit about the book:

With profound empathy and radiant generosity, Gilbert offers potent insights into the mysterious nature of inspiration. She asks us to embrace our curiosity and let go of needless suffering. She shows us how to tackle what we most love, and how to face down what we most fear. She discusses the attitudes, approaches, and habits we need in order to live our most creative lives. Balancing between soulful spirituality and cheerful pragmatism, Gilbert encourages us to uncover the “strange jewels” that are hidden within each of us. Whether we are looking to write a book, make art, find new ways to address challenges in our work, embark on a dream long deferred, or simply infuse our everyday lives with more mindfulness and passion, Big Magic cracks open a world of wonder and joy.

I can't wait! (Pro-tip: I've heard this is awesome in audio book form!)

So - let me know if you want to join us, either in person or online! Normally book club is the first weekend of the month, but with my lateness and an already short month, March's book club will be the second Saturday - March 10th.

Like last month, I'll send out some discussion questions and brunch menu to all the online attendees. We may have a spot or two open for the gathering in my home, so let me know ASAP if you want in! Either way, reach out over on the contact page and confirm your spot!

Stay well, friends. xoxo

January, the Longest Year Ever

February 6, 2018

A few weeks ago when I got my haircut, I came home and asked Matthew to take a picture of me. I wanted proof/a reminder (mostly for myself) that even in these long days of no sleep + infant care that I could still resemble a real woman. (If you have been, or are currently in this baby phase, you know that this is a real thing.) I looked at the camera, smiled, and tried to channel the posing cues that I usually relay to clients.

Then Matthew made some sort of comment about how crazy life had been - how January had felt long and hard and never-ending - and I sort of sigh-laughed with a mixture of exasperation, exhaustion, and amusement.

He snapped the photo.

Unless you know the context, this picture could have been taken when I was relaxed, rocking out to some music, with a drink in hand and cheese board nearby. And thus was born the perfect Facebook profile picture!

But seriously though - did January feel like the longest year ever for anyone else?

Call it whatever you want - new year madness, eclipse-induced chaos, recovering from the Christmas Cookie Diet - but for us this past month has been filled to the brim with some pretty serious stuff. Big reality checks, new jobs, new kid phases, new relationship phases, new therapy, new school - January did not hold back. It's not that everything was bad - far from it - but there was a lot.

We had our first Roy Joy Brunch Book Club event here in Santa Barbara last weekend, and it was awesome! I'm behind on sharing our discussion notes, but look for that this week. If you read the book at home and/or made any of the brunch recipes I sent out, I would LOVE to hear from you!

How was your January?